Need a Man

Today I came across a quote that said, "the smartest thing a woman can ever learn, is to never need a man." I read it. I thought about it. Then I read it again. Then I thought about it some more. Then I decided to blog about it. I think I might be old-fashioned. Some might call me dumb for the way I think. But I do need a man!! In so many ways! My oldest daughter and I have had several discussions about this also. For some reason she thinks that men and women are equal. That whatever a man can do, she should be able to do. It has bothered me and we have talked about it a lot. When I came across this quote today, it bothered me! And I hope my daughter doesn't see it! I want her to need a man also! Now, please keep in mind, this is my opinion! I know there are several women out there who might not need a man. There are several women that have been burned and have no desire to have anything to do with a man. But I think differently. You see, there are several men in my life that I don't want to even think about not having around! For one, there is my Savior. I'm pretty sure he is a man and I could not live without Him! Then there is my Prophet, Thomas S. Monson. Without his loving guidance many would be lost! My Bishop, who prays for and watches over all of us, his ward. My dad, Rodney. My father-in-law, Fine. My brother, Justin. My brothers-in-law. That doesn't sound right but you know what I mean. My sons, Braxton and Tevon (and Spencer, Kafa, and Finau). My Grandpa, Glade. My Grandpa, Arden. My Grandpa, Wout. Just thinking about those Grandpas brings tears to my eyes! The memories of sitting out on the porch with Grandpa Arden. I would sit on his lap and sing songs and swat at flies with him for hours. Or him taking us grandkids to the gravel pit with him. Or sitting around the table listening to him sing. Such beautiful memories and without him, I wouldn't have those memories. Each one of those men have taught me something. They have influenced me in one way or another. Then there is one man that I need and I am not ashamed to admit it! My husband, Tevita! I don't even want to think about life without this man. I love him with my whole heart. He is my best friend. He is the one that knows everything about me! He knows my fears, my loves, my everything. And I need him! And I pray that one day my daughters will NEED a man, a husband, a best friend. When some of my friends are getting together every weekend to have "girls weekends" I often wonder if there is something wrong with me. I don't want to go on a girls weekend if it means leaving my husband home with the kids. I love spending time with him. I love spending every chance we get to spend together. I have had this talk with one of my very close friends and she feels the same exact way so I know at least I'm not alone! I'm not sure when things have changed. My mom raised me with the knowledge that we need our husbands. They need us. We are supposed to take care of them. Cater to them. Make sure they are happy. I love knowing that my husband is appreciative when I fix him a plate and put it in front of him to eat. I love that I do the same thing for my dad and they appreciate it. I know they are capable of doing it for themselves, but if I can do it for them, then I will. I know I sound really old fashioned and some will look down on me but I won't change the way I feel. I'm not sorry for it. I'm not ashamed of it. I do need a man. In fact, I need several. I need the Priesthood in my life and without my man, I wouldn't have it! I am so very thankful for the men in my life. Each and everyone of them. I am also thankful for the women in my life. There is a reason why God intended men and women to be different. There is a reason why he chose us to be husband and wife. We may not know the reason, we may not like the reason, but that is the way it is. I hope that someday my boys will find wives that NEED them! I love each and every man in my life. I am so thankful for all of them.